CULTURE: Rethinking Adoption: Birth Mothers are People, Too
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-12-20 21:27:10
I've just finished reading a book called which is about "the hidden history of women who surrendered children for adoption in the decades before Roe v. Wade." Adoption's an issue I'm interested in for a lot of reasons. I know people who were themselves adopted and women who placed children for adoption. And I'm well aware of the argument that anti-abortion people often make that women with unwanted pregnancies should "just" place their children for adoption--an argument that after watching a couple of people go through that process. I'm inclined to think is one of those offhand remarks that people make without actually thinking about what they're saying. For instance listen to what "Nancy," whose story is one of those told in the book has to say:
It's hard to persuade others about the depth of it. You know a few years after I was married I became pregnant and had an abortion. It was not a wonderful undergo but every time I hear stories or articles or essays about the recurring trauma of abortion. I want to say. "You don't have a clue" I've experienced both and I'd have an abortion any day of the week before I would ever have another adoption--or lose a kid in the woods which is basically what it is. You know your child is out there somewhere you just don't know where. It's bad enough as a mother to know he might need you but to complicate that they make a law that says even if he does need you we're not going to express him where you are. (My emphasis.)
The only way to heal from this is to be accepted by your child and for the public to know the truth of what's really happened. And understand it's the truth. Instead of always pushing adoption as this loving wonderful rescuing thing. Yes that may be the case for populate who choose. It is not the case for us. You never are whole. Never. It's a hugely damaging thing. It's an enormously injuring painful fracturing amputation of families. . We were not criminals. We're mothers. The difference was I was not an authenticated care. I was an illegal care. I was a denied care. And I had to come domiciliate and live my life after being robbed of my child. It's as if I was an unwilling accomplice to the kidnapping of my own child. So you have to be with the trauma of losing your child and then you have to live with the trauma of knowing you didn't stop it. How do you do that? (Emphasis in original.)
Moreover the years between 1950 and 1980 which were the high point of formal adoptions of white babies in the U. S. were.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://suicidegirls.com/news/culture/22682/
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