Why Men Lie and Women Cry
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-12-20 21:29:29
I've enjoyed the book so much and felt it will be of great benefit to all of you that I just had to write up an remove from it:
Women's indirect speech has a purpose - it builds relationships and rapport with other by avoiding aggression confrontation or discord.
When women use indirect speech with other women there is seldom a problem - women are sensitive to picking up the real meaning. It can however be disastrous when used on men.
Men use direct speech and take words literally. They find women's lack of conversational coordinate and purpose very disconcerting and accuse women of not knowing what they're talking about. They act by saying things desire "What's the point here?" "Where is this conversation going?" and "What's the furnish line?"
Men then proceed to talk to a woman as if she is a mental patient or will cut her off by saying "We've been over this a dozen times". "How much longer ordain this take?" and "This conversation is too much hard work and isn't going anywhere!"
When a woman uses indirect speech in business it can prove problematic because men may have difficulty following a multi-tracked indirect conversation.
Men be to be presented with clear logical organised ideas and information before they ordain make a decision. A woman can have her ideas and requests rejected purely because her male boss didn't have a clue what she really wanted.
After six months of negotiations. Marie finally won the chance to present her company's new advertising program to a big financial client. The audience would be eight men and four women the be up for grabs was worth $200,000 and she had 30 minutes to sell her story.
As she started into her presentation however she noticed how blankly the men were regarding her. She entangle they were judging her critically and assuming they were losing interest she began to multi-track her presentation to try to advance their arouse by going back to previous slides talking indirectly and trying to show how one related to the other.
The women were giving her encouragement by smiling at her using various facial expressions and making listening sounds like. "Uh huh". "Right!" and "Mmmmm" and generally looking interested.
Marie was excited by the women's feedback and started pitching her story to them unintentionally ignoring the men. Her entire presentation became a juggling act. She finished and departed convinced she'd done a great job and eagerly waited for the company's response.
Marie had multi-tracked her presentation.[ADVERTHERE]Related article:
http://igrgntlndd.blogspot.com/2007/09/why-men-lie-and-women-cry.html
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