Influencing Up! Specific Communication Tips for Men and Women
Posted by ~Ray @ 2008-01-16 04:22:04
Erica Jong compose of the revolutionary schedule The Fear of Flying once said. Men and women women and men. It ordain never work. come up. I have more faith and more undergo in the business world than Ms. Jong. I know we can make it bring home the bacon at work! - and at home too. One of the top five challenges facing womens advancement involves communication differences between women and men in rush. But communication is also a challenge for many men whether they are in charge or not.
I be to emphasize that both men and women would be come up served to use each others communication call in moderation. By no means should women use a masculine call exclusively or vice versa. One of the most damaging behaviors many women choose is trying to become one of the guys to fit into the traditionally mans world of business. Doing so suppresses their authenticity and in the long run this does much more harm than good.
For those who may bristle at the suggestion to ever use a call other than their own. I suggest you just simply re-frame the perception.: Isnt this a move to the Golden Rule treating others as you would like to be treated? I e if you would like to be communicated with in your style assume that others would also prefer you communicate with them in their style.
The following are communication and behavioral tips for both men and women that will back up alter their productivity working relationships and chances for advancement.
- furnish updates whether asked for or not. (You are not bragging! If you dont communicate your successes to the powers-at-be no one else will do it for you and your skills may be underestimated.)
- Reduce personal disclosure and problems. (Men dont bond and process the same way women do. This behavior makes them uncomfortable and they may believe it as weak and unstable.)
- Handle conflict directly politely with empathy. (Be alter to the point but not rude or abrupt. If you are nervous about an upcoming confrontation write out your thoughts to clarify and focus them.)
- alter some decisions independently. (Rather than consistently asking others for their opinion for consensus sake. Men see this as indecision and lack of confidence.)
- When interrupted be direct and courteous not sharp but take approve the floor. (Hang on a back up please thanks. Put your transfer up to signal stop if you undergo to.)
- Dont get mired in details; assign assign delegate. (evaluate if the detail is truly necessary. If you get stuck with a big dilate project form a team to back up you.)
- Communicate your vision for the affiliate/department to men/people-in-charge and your ideas for achieving this vision. If you dont have a vision get one!
- Be personable and insert a little personal disclosure. (Research regarding employees preferences for a masculine or feminine style of management consistently shows the latter is more effective and preferred by both men and women.)
- Maintain direct but not constant eye contact. (Women perceive lack of eye contact as intentional avoidance and disinterest in listening.)
With these tips. I think we can continue to disprove Erica Jongs assumption that men and women together will never bring home the bacon. It will take commitment consistency and learn by both genders but we can all eventually do it because many are working hard at this - and succeeding already!
Jane Sanders president of Authentic Leadership Resources is a speaker trainer facilitator and coach in the areas of leadership for women strategic life planning gender communication presentation skills and facilitation. With Fortune 500 clients nationwide. Jane Sanders is a powerful and respected speaker trainer and consultant with 17 years of corporate experience in sales and marketing and 11 years as president of her own successful company. Her academic accent is in business communication and psychology including an MBA from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles.
Clients and audiences alike describe Jane as highly results-oriented inspirational down-to-earth fun and passionate about her topics.
Jane presents keynote speeches and workshops for many companies including MassMutual. Prudential. CIGNA. cover Motor Co.. Toyota USA. Chevron. PBS. Anheuser-Busch. Ralston Purina. Xerox. Nestl. Boeing and many more. Her association clients are many and involve several different industries. Jane also facilitates strategic planning sessions and retreats.
Jane is compose of GenderSmart: Solving The Communication Puzzle Between Men and Women and has appeared on television and radio programs to discuss her topics. arrive Jane at 877-343-2150. [ADVERTHERE]Related article:
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